{"id":829,"date":"2026-07-05T10:03:10","date_gmt":"2026-07-05T10:03:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/?p=829"},"modified":"2026-07-27T09:46:53","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T09:46:53","slug":"how-to-stop-limerence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/how-to-stop-limerence\/","title":{"rendered":"How to stop limerence: Why \u201cJust Letting Go\u201d Doesn't Work (And What Does Help)"},"content":{"rendered":"<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In this article, you'll read why stopping limerence is not the same as \u201cjust using your common sense\u201d or \u201csimply not thinking about that person anymore.\u201d.<br>You'll discover what's happening in your brain, nervous system, and attachment patterns that makes limerence stronger the harder you try to push it away, and why relapses under stress or fatigue are a normal part of recovery.<br>We'll look at what people usually try to stop limerence, why it often only works partially, and what initial small steps *do* help to make the loop less powerful over your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/the-limerence-loop\/\">The limerence loop: why your brain can't stop hoping<\/a> I'm explaining how hope, uncertainty, checking, and small rewards together form a kind of emotional slot machine.<br>This blog follows on from that, but with a different focus: less on what goes wrong, and more on what recovery looks like in practice \u2013 including relapses, doubts, and learning to choose yourself while your system still pulls you toward your LO.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">My experience with overcoming limerence (and relapsing)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my own limerence periods, I've noticed that relapse can happen in two very different ways.<br>If there was still contact with my LO and everything felt \u201cgood\u201d for a while, I could function reasonably normally. Until something small went wrong: a conversation that didn't go well, something I thought I had said wrong, or a period where I suddenly heard nothing for a long time. Then I noticed how quickly I started to worry again, reread, interpret, and have inner conversations, while before that I thought it wasn't that bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In situations where I consciously distanced myself, it happened differently. I experienced multiple times that after breaking contact, I lived in phases for a whole year: periods when I thought about that person less, for example, because I had a lot of distractions \u2013 moving, big projects, practical stress \u2013 and periods when, as soon as my life became a little calmer, there was immediately more room to think about that person again. Then I realized how strongly recovery is linked to what my brain is busy with. The more my attention was truly invested elsewhere, the less room there was for limerence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Therefore, I have gradually become convinced that \u201cstopping limerence\u201d is not just about distance or willpower, but also about building something bigger than this one person: a project, a side hustle, your own business, a new hobby, something that engages your brain and makes you feel like the main character again. This is not a magic trick, but it does help to slowly shift the center of gravity: away from the loop around your LO, and more towards a life that isn't solely organized around it. \n\nA step by step approach and different exercises, with some setbacks on the way, is the most common way to gradually overcoming limerence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is precisely through my own relapses, both with contact and after distance,  that I have increasingly delved into the psychological and neurochemical aspects of limerence. In my training as a trauma-informed coach, I am learning how the nervous system, stress, and old patterns influence each other, and how recovery almost always proceeds erratically and non-linearly. This combination of theory and experience is why I am writing this blog and my workbook: to give you language and direction at moments when you think you \u201cshould just be able to do better,\u201d while your brain and your history are doing something else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you notice that shame is making your recovery more difficult, you can <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-shame\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence and shame<\/a> <\/strong>help you be kinder to yourself as you work through limerence. For many people with ADHD, stopping limerence feels even more complicated: thoughts race faster, stimuli hit harder, and relapses seem more likely. In<strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-adhd\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence in ADHD<\/a> <\/strong>I describe how to work in smaller steps with a busy brain, so that recovery remains achievable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why \u201cjust quit\u201d rarely works<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many people try to stop limerence by trying hard:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Have one more really good, honest conversation<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>rationally tell yourself it \u201cmakes no sense anyway\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>to reprimand oneself that it really must be finished now<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Or find a new crush as soon as possible, so the old one feels less important<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The tricky part is that all those strategies mostly stay on top of the same loop. Your brain has already linked your LO to reward, relief, and confirmation, and reacts to that with addiction-like dynamics: the combination of uncertainty, small signals, and great significance makes your system keep scanning and hoping, even when your mind says it's better to stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Furthermore, limerence is often intertwined with attachment and old pain: a feeling of not being chosen, fear of abandonment, or seeking safety in relationships that are never fully available. If you try to overcome this with willpower alone, it not only feels heavy but also like you're abandoning yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cJust stop\u201d often does two things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>it puts even more pressure on yourself (\u201cif I don't succeed, I'm weak\u201d);<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>it leaves the underlying layer \u2013 nervous system, triggers, old patterns \u2013 largely untouched.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stopping limerence usually requires something else: gradually reducing triggers, learning to recognize when you're in the loop, reinvesting your attention elsewhere, and carefully working with the underlying attachment layer. Therefore, it makes sense that it doesn't go in a straight line and that relapses are part of the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/what-is-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">What is Limerence<\/a> read more about the basics of limerence. And in <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-is-similar-to-addiction\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence is similar to addiction<\/a> Do you see why this process is so similar to an addiction cycle, without it being a \u201clack of backbone\u201d?.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\" style=\"border-width:1px\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10 Valuable Insights in a Free Guide<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some people who land on this page have googled limerence tens of times. You know the definition. You know the stages. But there's a big difference between knowing what it is and actually getting out of it. I wrote a free guide with 10 insights that go a bit deeper. A guide that can help you on your way and explain that you are not alone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/in.sidssaferoom.com\/decode\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Download the free guide here.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Relapses: Why They're Normal and What They Mean<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Relapses are a much more common part of limerence recovery than people think. Often, things get better for a while: you think about your LO less, you feel calmer, you have periods where you're almost surprised at how \u201cnormal\u201d you can function again.<br>And then, just when you're tired, under pressure, or encounter an old trigger \u2013 a place, a photo, an unexpected encounter, a dream \u2013 it can just flare up again. That's not proof that you haven't learned anything or that you're \u201cback to square one.\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes you notice that you're not so much seeking contact, but rather continuing to talk to your ex internally. <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-why-you-keep-having-conversations-in-your-mind\/\">Why you keep having conversations in your head with your ex<\/a> goes deeper into those inner dialogues and what they are trying to do for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Our brain, and especially a brain that has built an addiction-like loop, reacts extra strongly to stress and fatigue: old coping mechanisms return more quickly because they once helped regulate tension. In the context of limerence, this means that fantasy, checking, and hoping reappear for a while.<br>You can see that as retracing an old path, not as a failed attempt. Every time you notice, \u201cHey, I'm falling back,\u201d and still make a slightly different choice, not texting, checking less, bringing your attention back to yourself \u2013 you're making that path less deep, step by step.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/no-contact-with-limerence\/\">No contact with limerence<\/a> I am writing about the role of distance in recovery.<br>And <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-unrequited-love\/\">Limerence and unrequited love<\/a> Can you read how the fact that someone is unreachable or unanswered can actually strengthen the loop. Both blogs are a good basis for better understanding relapses, so you can see them less as a personal failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Four layers of recovery (broadly speaking)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can broadly view limerence recovery as working on four layers. They often overlap, but it helps to name them separately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Reduce stimuli.<\/strong><br>Fewer new \u201crushes\u201d help your system to relax in the first place. This can involve no contact or less contact, but also digital boundaries: checking less, turning off notifications, no late-night scrolling sessions in the hope of a signal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Recognize the loop<\/strong><br>As in <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/the-limerence-loop\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">The limerence loop<\/a> Described: Learning to see when you are in hope \u2192 checking \u2192 interpretation \u2192 unease \u2192 once again hope. Just recognizing that prevents you from fully merging with the experience, but creates a little distance.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Looking at underlying attachment and old pain<\/strong><br>Limerence doesn't come out of nowhere. In <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-attachment-styles\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence and attachment styles<\/a> en <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/why-he-or-she-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Why him or her?<\/a> Do you see how old patterns and mixed signals play a role. \u201cStopping\u201d only really gains depth when you also include this layer, even if only in small pieces.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Attachment energy transfer<\/strong><br>Your love, attention, and creativity don't have to disappear; they can be directed elsewhere. In <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/life-after-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Life After Limerence<\/a> It's more about that. Building things where you are the main character \u2013 a hobby, project, business, creative pursuit \u2013 helps your system experience that there's more than just this one person.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don't have to work on all layers at once perfectly. Often you start by reducing triggers and recognizing the loop, and then space slowly grows for attachment and shifting your energy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">First small steps if you want to know how to stop limerence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don't have to be \u201ccompletely done\u201d with limerence all at once. Small, concrete steps are often much more powerful than big intentions. A few examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Name what happens by name<\/strong><br>Tell yourself: \u201cThis is limerence, not neutral infatuation.\u201d That sounds simple, but it shifts your perspective: you're looking at a pattern, not just a romantic story.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Create a mini no-contact experiment<\/strong><br>Instead of \u201cforever,\u201d you can start with, for example, 7 or 30 days in which you don't initiate contact or check in. Not as punishment, but as an experiment: how does my nervous system feel when there are no new stimuli for a while?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Introduce more friction into your checking behavior.<\/strong><br>Things like muting, turning off notifications, removing apps from your home screen, or setting specific \u201cno-check hours\u201d make the automatic loop less automatic.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Write triggers and fallbacks<\/strong><br>Briefly track when you notice you're back in the loop: what happened just before, how did you feel, what were you thinking? That makes the patterns more visible and less mysterious.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Invest consciously in something larger than your first love.<\/strong><br>A project, hobby, training, creative plan, building something \u2013 you yourself mentioned how a move or something big in your life temporarily preoccupies your brain differently. You can consciously apply this principle: create something where you play the main role.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Practice small moments of nervous system care<\/strong><br>Calm breathing, a short walk, stretching, feeling your body, a brief body scan: these are not \u201cspiritual tricks,\u201d but ways to release adrenaline and tension so that the urge to check and fantasize becomes less intense. To avoid just relying on insights, you can start with the micro-steps from <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/oefeningen-limerence-zacht-onderbreken\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Two exercises that gently interrupt limerence<\/a>.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How my workbook can help you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A blog can do a lot for understanding and recognition, but stopping limerence usually requires repeated practice. Precisely because the loop has had years to become ingrained, it's helpful to have a place where you can work step-by-step on:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>recognizing your personal loop<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>the expansion of no-contact experiments and boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Handling relapses without beating yourself up<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>exploring attachment, old pain, and your own needs<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>moving your energy to something that nourishes you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph translation-block\">That experience is also why I wrote my theory and workbook <strong>\u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/in.sidssaferoom.com\/loskomenvanlimerence\" target=\"_self\">Out of the Limerence Loop<\/a>\u201d<\/strong>. Not to \u201cfix\u201d anyone, but to offer language and exercises to people who recognise themselves in this pattern: falling again and again for unattainable or unrequited love, repeatedly ending up in a lovesick\u2011like state of limerence, and not understanding why it feels so huge. In the workbook, you can gently explore which old pain is involved, which triggers your nervous system picks up, and how you can, step by step, create more space for real, mutual connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you want to tackle this step by step, my workbook will help you calmly and structurally go through these processes. This blog is primarily intended as a safe first step, offering recognition and language for what is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure data-spectra-id=\"spectra-mr7lv4nn-nupnqd\" class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/in.sidssaferoom.com\/outoflimerence\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"578\" height=\"825\" src=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1.png\" alt=\"The book cover. Breaking Free from Limerence by Sidney C. Solace\" class=\"wp-image-650\"  title=\"How to stop limerence: Why \u201cJust Letting Go\u201d Doesn&#039;t Work (And What Does Help)\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1.png 674w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-188x300.png 188w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-643x1024.png 643w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-8x12.png 8w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 578px) 100vw, 578px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">To think about yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps it helps to gently ask yourself one or two of these questions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What does \u201cstopping limerence\u201d mean for me in practice; how would my day look different then?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>In which situations do I notice that I am most vulnerable to relapse (tired, lonely, stressed, a lot of free time, still in contact)?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Which layer of recovery do I need most right now: reducing stimuli, recognizing patterns, addressing attachment, or shifting energy?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What could be a small project where I feel like the main character again?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don't need to have perfect answers to these questions. Just seeing that these questions exist is an important step in itself in shifting your perspective from \u201conly them\u201d to \u201calso a bit me.\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are not weak or a failure because limerence doesn't stop all at once. Recovery is almost never a straight line. Limerence is intense, but it's also something you can learn to understand and influence layer by layer. Small steps, a lot of gentleness, and slowly rebuilding your life around yourself, that's something you can be proud of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Frequently Asked Questions about; how to stop limerence?<\/h2>\n\n\n<div id=\"rank-math-faq\" class=\"rank-math-block\">\n<div class=\"rank-math-list\">\n<div id=\"faq-question-1783245006486\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\"><strong>Do I always have to go no contact to stop limerence?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Not everyone can or wants to go no contact at all, but less and cleaner contact often helps. Especially when contact keeps feeding your cycle, distance is an important building block for recovery. In <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/no-contact-with-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">No contact with limerence<\/a> Read more about different forms of distance.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1783245079617\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\"><strong>How do I know if I'm truly out of limerence?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>You usually notice that limerence takes up less space: your mood no longer leans so heavily on mini-cues from your LO, you can focus on other things, and you feel more freedom of choice. It doesn't mean you never think about that person again, but it does mean your life no longer revolves around them.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1783245109676\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\"><strong>Is a relapse proof that my recovery is failing?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>No. Relapses are normal, especially with something that strongly resembles addiction. They mainly say something about stress, fatigue, or triggers, not about your worth. More important is how you deal with a relapse: do you see it, and can you then pick up small recovery steps again?<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1783245157185\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\"><strong>Can I stop limerence without ever telling my LO how I felt?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Sure, in some cases the limerence feelings disappear and it becomes a reciprocal relationship, sometimes people don't even know their LO personally, as they are someone from afar, and sometimes you decide to distance yourself without explaining. It's completely situational. <\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1783245297801\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Is there something wrong with me because<strong>I can't just let it go?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>No. The fact that you have trouble letting go says more about past pain, attachment, and neurochemistry than about your character. You are not broken; you have a pattern that needs attention. And you can give yourself attention; step by step, with the help of blogs, workbooks, and, if necessary, professional support. This website is also here to let you know that you are not alone and you don't have to be ashamed. <\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-border-color has-ast-global-color-1-border-color is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\" style=\"border-width:3px\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\">About the author<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure data-spectra-id=\"spectra-mqgj2oxa-8zi00i\" class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full has-custom-border\" ><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"333\" height=\"196\" src=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1.jpg\" alt=\"Sidney&#039;s eyes\" class=\"has-border-color wp-image-590\"  title=\"How to stop limerence: Why \u201cJust Letting Go\u201d Doesn&#039;t Work (And What Does Help)\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1.jpg 333w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1-300x177.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><br>I am Sidney, writer, researcher, and the driving force behind <em>Sid's Saferoom<\/em>. In addition to my years of personal experience with breaking free from limerence, I am certified <strong>Trauma-Informed Coach<\/strong> (IPHM-accredited via Kirsty Watson, <em>The Complete Approach<\/em>). <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph translation-block\">Knowing firsthand how lonely and exhausting obsessive infatuation can be, I dedicate my work to helping others heal. I write about it and developed the theory and workbook Out of the Limerence Loop. My mission is to provide you with the psychological insights and practical tools needed to interrupt the obsessive loop and restore peace to your nervous system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Want to know more?<\/strong> Read my full story on the <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/contact\/\" target=\"_blank\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/contact\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>About me<\/strong><\/a>-page.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Weekly support?<\/strong> Subscribe to my English-language essays at <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.substack.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>substack.com.<\/strong><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In dit artikel lees je waarom limerence stoppen 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