{"id":1002,"date":"2026-07-27T11:36:42","date_gmt":"2026-07-27T11:36:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/?p=1002"},"modified":"2026-07-27T12:29:22","modified_gmt":"2026-07-27T12:29:22","slug":"limerence-and-boundaries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-boundaries\/","title":{"rendered":"Limerence and boundaries: why recovery goes against your tendencies"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In this article, you'll read why recovering from limerence often requires you to do the exact opposite of what your tendency tells you to do. This is important if you notice that your entire system wants to move towards your LO by, for example, texting, fantasizing, or replaying conversations, while you know somewhere deep down that you need boundaries. You'll find explanations, relatable examples, and initial exercises to act differently from your automatic inclination, with a bridge to my theory book and workbook if you wish to go through this process step by step.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Brief summary: limerence, boundaries, and going against your inclination<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With limerence, your first instinct often feels like \u201cmoving towards the LO\u201d: texting more, explaining more, one more conversation, one more chance. Recovery, on the other hand, requires boundaries and choices that don't feel good immediately, but do bring peace in the long run. In this blog, I'll explain how your brain works during limerence, why counter-intuitive choices feel so unnatural, and what small exercises you can use to take different steps anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my blog <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/what-is-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">What is Limerence<\/a> <\/strong>I'm explaining how the limerence loop works: obsessive infatuation, fantasy, hope, nervous system stress, and behavior. In this blog, I'll zoom in on one tricky part of recovery: boundaries and choices that don't feel right immediately but will help in the long run.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\" style=\"border-width:1px\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10 Valuable Insights in a Free Guide<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some people who land on this page have googled limerence tens of times. You know the definition. You know the stages. But there's a big difference between knowing what it is and actually getting out of it. I wrote a free guide with 10 insights that go a bit deeper. A guide that can help you on your way and explain that you are not alone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/in.sidssaferoom.com\/decode\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Download the free guide here.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">My own struggle with boundaries in limerence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I've long seen myself as someone who was \u201cjust independent.\u201d Due to my parents' mental health issues, I had to take care of myself from a young age, solve things on my own, and not rely too much on others. That image of myself as strong and independent was accurate in many ways, except in love, if I'm being honest. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Something else was happening in my love life. It often happened that men liked me and I rejected them, while I myself was repeatedly drawn to more unattainable people. If there was someone in my life with whom I had some contact, but who remained unattainable in practice, I would go all out for that person: afraid of losing them, a lot of people-pleasing, letting my boundaries slide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That didn't feel like \u201chaving no boundaries\u201d; it felt like love, care, and understanding. Only when I was willing to face the strong limerence patterns and fear underneath could I start to see that many of my choices were working against me. It takes courage and importance to dare to look at yourself and honestly reflect on your own actions, even if it brings painful insights.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This blog is also personal for that reason: I myself have experienced how complicated it is to set boundaries that don't fit your old self-image, but do fit your recovery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why isn't your inclination towards limerence always wise?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In limerence, your brain goes into a sort of \u201cget this person\u201d mode. It constantly craves closeness with your LO: contact, validation, clarity, a good feeling. The tendency then is to get closer, send one more message, have one more conversation, create one more chance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You see this, for example, in:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>always wanted to text when you feel restless;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Replaying conversations in your head to see what you could have done differently;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>daydreaming about future encounters and how to make them go \u201cwell\u201d;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Rereading old messages to find new meaning.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your brain believes that safety comes from moving closer to your \u201cLO\u201d (Limerent Object). But especially with limerence, this \"safety tendency\" is often unwise: in practice, your LO is unclear, unreachable, or unavailable as you hope, and every new stimulus throws more fuel on the limerence loop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my blog <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/the-limerence-loop\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>The Limerence Cycle<\/strong><\/a> I'll describe how that loop works: from stimulus to hope and fantasy, often pain, and even more searching. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Setting boundaries; less contact and not constantly replaying things in your head, breaks that loop, but in the moment it feels like you're denying yourself something important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Psychologically, what happens when a boundary goes against your inclination?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As soon as you try to set a boundary, you\u2019ll encounter resistance\u2014not just emotionally, but also in your mind. That\u2019s because your brain wants to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>rehash conversations;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>fantasizing about \u201cwhat if it works out this time\u201d?;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Reflecting on the past: where did it go wrong, what should you have done differently;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>developing strategies for the future: what you\u2019re going to say next time, how you can \u201cset the record straight\u201d;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Rewriting messages, looking at screenshots, going through old photos.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your brain wants you to spend time in your head with your loved one. It then feels against your inclination to limit yourself in this regard: as if you are taking something essential away from yourself, as if you are not allowed to feel what you feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Another part of your brain, your prefrontal cortex, then has to work hard. That is the part that can control, inhibit, and plan. It has to notice each time: \u201cI'm in a fantasy again,\u201d \u201cI'm reading old messages again,\u201d \u201cI'm preparing what I'm going to say again,\u201d and then make a different choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That'.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can summarize it like this: <strong>Boundaries in limerence not only require different actions but also training your brain to spend less time stuck in fantasy mode.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Which choices concretely go against your inclination?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This isn't just about big decisions like no contact, but also about small, everyday moments where you choose a different route than your limerence tendency. A few examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Don't react immediately<\/strong><br>You see a message from your significant other, and everything in your body wants to type back immediately. An anti-urge choice is: breathe first, maybe wait half an hour, feel what you need instead of immediately pleasing them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Do not reread<\/strong><br>You notice you want to scroll back through old messages again. Instead of giving in, you say, \u201cThis isn't helping me, I'm choosing something else now,\u201d and you put your phone away or deliberately open another app\/activity.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Don't discuss everything<\/strong><br>You tend to share every feeling, every nuance with your love interest. A boundary is: work some things out with yourself, a journal, or a therapist first, don't unload them onto the relationship or crush.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Still cancelling an appointment<\/strong><br>You notice that meeting.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my blog<strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-and-boundaries-and-pain\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence and boundaries and pain<\/a><\/strong> I'll delve deeper into how boundaries can simultaneously bring relief and cause pain. The point isn't that boundaries should be easy, but that they pull you out of a pattern that would otherwise go on endlessly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Exercises to recognize and replace your tendencies<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can't make these counter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Signal list: when will you be \u201cback to your LO\u201d again?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Make a short list of your personal signs that you&#x27;re back in the limerence cycle. Consider:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>I'm fantasizing about the next encounter;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I replay conversations in my head.;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I'm rereading old messages;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I'm rehearsing in my head what I'm going to say next.;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>I check apps without a new notification.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hang this list somewhere visible or write it down in your phone. Every time you notice yourself doing one of these things, you can see it as a \u201crecovery moment\u201d: you've realized your tendency is active. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my blog <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/limerence-what-you-dont-see\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Limerence: what you don\u2019t see when you\u2019re in it<\/a> describe what blind spots often exist in this process. It starts with: daring to see that your head is fully with your LO again. Sometimes just noticing it already gives a feeling of control. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Replacement exercise: what else can your brain do?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your brain doesn't just need low energy; it also needs challenges, focus, and things that give it meaning. So, you shouldn't just say, \u201cJust don't think about your low anymore,\u201d but also, \u201cWhat *should* I think about?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Create a list of activities that you feel challenged or passionate about:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>creative projects (writing, drawing, making music);<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>things in which you learn something new (education, courses, skills);<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Relationships where you don't have to please to belong;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Physical activities that get your mind off things.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Every time you notice your LO tendency, consciously choose one of these things. It's not magic, but it trains your brain: there are other places I can land.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Small limits experiments<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don't have to make a big no-contact decision right away. Start with small boundary experiments, such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>one day per week without contact or social media around your recovery;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>a time slot in the day when you are allowed to think about everything, and not the rest of the day;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>a maximum number of messages per day that you send.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These experiments help you see what happens when you don't fully follow your inclination. <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/no-contact-with-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">No contact with limerence<\/a> <\/strong>I describe different forms of distance \u2013 from gently setting boundaries to temporarily cutting off contact entirely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Why is this taking so long (and why is that okay)?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your brain has likely been paving limerence pathways for a long time. Perhaps you've had years of patterns of falling for unattainable people, replaying conversations, and building hope loops. It's logical that this won't disappear in two weeks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Important:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Learning new habits takes time, repetition, and sometimes frustration;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>There will be days when you just give in to your inclination \u2013 that's not proof you're failing, but that you're human;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Every time you notice an urge and pause on it for one second longer, that's already a mini-exercise.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/en\/life-after-limerence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Life After Limerence<\/strong><\/a> I'm writing about what it can look like when your life no longer revolves around that one person. It's not an endpoint where you have to be perfect, but a direction you can keep choosing, even with setbacks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How my theory and workbook can help you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In my theory book <strong>\u201cGetting Over Limerence\u201d<\/strong> I explain what happens in your brain during limerence, why you're drawn to your LO, and what underlying patterns (attachment, self-image, old pain) are at play. That book helps you understand why recovery often feels like you're going against yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The workbook is specifically designed to practice those counter-intuitive choices. You'll find exercises there that help you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Fantasy and rumination are noticed faster;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>involve your body in your choices, not just your thoughts;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>explore and try out boundaries step by step;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>find other places where you can channel your attention, energy, and passion.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you'd like to tackle this step by step, my workbook will help you go through these processes calmly and in a structured way. You don't have to do it by feel and willpower alone; you can use support, structure, and repetition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure data-spectra-id=\"spectra-ms35tu9d-ogze4k\" class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/in.sidssaferoom.com\/outoflimerence\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"578\" height=\"825\" src=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1.png\" alt=\"The book cover. Breaking Free from Limerence by Sidney C. Solace\" class=\"wp-image-650\"  title=\"Limerence and boundaries: why recovery goes against your tendencies\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1.png 674w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-188x300.png 188w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-643x1024.png 643w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/English-book-cover-small-1-8x12.png 8w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 578px) 100vw, 578px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Just this one more thing <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you notice that all boundaries and exercises go against your tendencies, it doesn't mean you're having \u201cweird\u201d feelings; it means your brain has learned to seek safety in your LO for a long time. That's understandable, but it makes your life small and heavy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You may acknowledge that it's a lot to ask to make different choices. You may be tired, scared, and find it complicated \u2013 and still take small steps that create more space for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It doesn't have to be perfect. Every time you shift even one thought or action from \u201cautomatic to LO\u201d to \u201cconsciously choosing yourself,\u201d it's a real step in your recovery.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Frequently Asked Questions about Limerence and Boundaries <\/h2>\n\n\n<div id=\"rank-math-faq\" class=\"rank-math-block\">\n<div class=\"rank-math-list\">\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785153202992\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Do I always have to go against my impulses when I have limerence?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Not every feeling is unreliable, but with limerence, your first inclination is often towards more contact, even if it hurts you. The point is to learn to recognize when that inclination traps you, and then consciously practice a different choice.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785153307086\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Is no contact the only way to set boundaries?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>No. No contact can be best in many situations, but there are also other forms of distance: less texting, less one-on-one interaction, clear time slots. The most important thing is that the form of contact sets off your nervous system less and gives you more control.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785153357983\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Why does it feel like I'm punishing myself when I set boundaries?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Because your brain has started associating limerence contact with safety and comfort. Boundaries may feel like loss or punishment at first, while in the long run, they actually provide space and peace. That dual feeling is normal.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785153381293\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Why does it feel like I'm shortchanging myself when I set boundaries?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>Because your brain has started associating limerence contact with safety and comfort. Boundaries may feel like loss or punishment at first, while in the long run, they actually provide space and peace. That dual feeling is normal.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785154158069\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">How do I know if a boundary isn't too strict?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>You can view boundaries as experiments: small, temporary, and evaluable. Don't just look at how it feels on day one, but also at what it does to your energy, sleep, and thoughts after a while. You are allowed to adjust and explore.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div id=\"faq-question-1785154290143\" class=\"rank-math-list-item\">\n<h3 class=\"rank-math-question\">Am I a bad person if I distance myself from my LO?<\/h3>\n<div class=\"rank-math-answer\">\n\n<p>No. Taking distance is not a judgment on the worth of your loved one, but a choice for your own mental health. You are allowed to acknowledge that a form of contact harms you, even if you still love or care about them.<\/p>\n\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group has-border-color has-ast-global-color-1-border-color is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\" style=\"border-width:3px\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center\">About the author<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure data-spectra-id=\"spectra-mqgj2oxa-8zi00i\" class=\"wp-block-image size-full has-custom-border\" ><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"333\" height=\"196\" src=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1.jpg\" alt=\"Sidney&#039;s eyes\" class=\"has-border-color wp-image-590\"  title=\"Limerence and boundaries: why recovery goes against your tendencies\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1.jpg 333w, https:\/\/sidssaferoom.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/Sidneys-eyes-1-300x177.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Sidney C. Solace is a writer with a background in investigative journalism and years of personal experience with limerence and, more importantly, overcoming it. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph translation-block\">She explores the psychological patterns behind obsessive infatuation and attachment, and writes for people who seem to function on the outside but feel completely consumed by one person on the inside. In <em>Out of the Limerence Loop<\/em>, she combines theory and practice to give readers more language, calm, and direction on their path to recovery.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In dit artikel lees je waarom herstel van limerence vaak precies het tegenovergestelde vraagt van wat je neiging zegt dat 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