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I promise you can get out of this. You are not alone.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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If one person dictates your days, your thoughts, your mood, and far more often than you'd like to admit, every phone check is about that one name, then this is about you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here we call that limerence: obsessive infatuation that takes over your head, races your body, and pushes your own life into the background. This platform helps you to see exactly what is happening, and to regain control of your attention and your daily life, step by step.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n\t\tFor a long time, I thought I was \u201cjust normally in love,\u201d even though I felt ashamed of how intense it was. \t<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\t

\n\t\tThis book is for anyone whose infatuation has become a loop of hoping, waiting, and losing yourself in one person, the pattern known as limerence. Inside, I explain what is happening in your brain and body and walk you through practical steps to break that cycle. You really can recover from limerence, even if it feels impossible right now. Everything that helped me has been brought together in this book for you.\t<\/p>\n\n\n

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Receive a short, English guide with 10 insights about limerence, so you can better understand what is happening to you and know that you are not alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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For years, from my adolescence and well into my forties, I thought my intense infatuations \"were just the way I was\". It wasn\u2019t until I discovered the term limerence and dove into the science and literature surrounding it that I understood why I kept losing myself in another person over and over again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

From that combination of decades of personal experience and in-depth research, I wrote the theory book and workbook, Out of the Limerence Loop, which was written as a practical guide for anyone who recognizes themselves in this pattern. Because I want to support others professionally and safely in their recovery, I am a certified Trauma-Informed Coach (IPHM-accredited via Kirsty Watson, The Complete Approach) and in possession of an official CPD certificate. This is the platform and the book that I myself, many years ago, would have loved to have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I painfully recognized myself in the descriptions of limerence. What helped me most was that this book not only explains what is happening, but also gives concrete exercises for the exact moments when I would normally start checking or fantasizing. I no longer feel completely at the mercy of my mind; there is finally some space between my thoughts and what I actually do. It takes perseverance, but that is true for any real change in life.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI\u2019ve read other books about obsessive love, but they often stayed very theoretical. In this one, I felt that \u2018ping\u2019 of recognition over and over again. It\u2019s actually painful to admit how much shame I feel around this, but I do. The exercises helped me notice that, over time, my days were no longer completely centered around \u2018him,\u2019 but more and more around my own life. It is not a straight line, but I can already feel that real recovery is possible.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\"Just having a word for \u201climerence\u201d brought some relief, but this book went far beyond putting a label on it. It helped me understand why unclear, half-available people kept showing up in my life and pulling me in so deeply. The mix of clear explanations and reflection questions really works. For me, the \u201cback to my body\u201d practices were the most powerful. After a few weeks, I could feel myself taking back control over how often my mind spiraled off into fantasies. I felt relieved and genuinely grateful. and also a little sad that I didn\u2019t learn this twenty years ago... or even 40 years...\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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